The WHY Question
When overcoming challenges and obstacles we may often feel stuck in a rut. Many keep asking ourselves the “Why”. Why can’t I lose weight? Why am I still single? Why do people not understand me? Why, why, why. We continue to ask the same type of question. They WHY question. If you are still asking a why question, that simply means, that you haven’t come up with a satisfying answer yet. Remember Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. In this case it is not the doing, but the asking. Are you still asking the same why-question over and over and expect different results?
The problem with a why question is, that most why questions will keep our mind focusing on the problem, and we just seem to not be able to find a satisfying answer to our problem. As long as we keep asking that why question we will stay in the problem state. If we want to move into a resourceful state we need to change the questions we ask of ourselves, to questions that will give us different answers. The way to go about this is to rephrase the question, so it starts with either “How can I…” or “What Can I…” and finish the question with what it is that you would like to achieve (stated in the positive & present tense). You will notice that you can rephrase each question in several different ways. For example:
“Why do I never have enough money?”
“How can learn to manage my money differently?”
“How can I spent less money on a daily basis?”
“What can I do to save only a few dollars every day?”
“What can I do to earn more money?”
“Who do I know that manages money well, that might be able to teach me?”
“Where can I find resources that can help me to spent less and save more?”
When you start asking a “How can I…”, “What can I…?” or “Where can I…?” question, your mind starts to focus on finding a solution, rather than staying stuck in the problem.
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Researchers have found that highly successful managers and sales professionals use communication techniques which are nearly identical in structure to the communication techniques used by hypnotists. These techniques are so subtle, natural and friendly that few people consciously recognize their hypnotic powers. These communication strategies have been researched extensively in the fields of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis and Sales Psychology.
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Our next weight loss group session will take place on Wednesday 3/21/2010 from 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm at our office located on 4025 Camino Del Rio South, Suite 300, San Diego, CA 92116.
This group is limited to only 10 individuals and priced at a special rate of only $ 40.00 (since I’ll be turning 40 this month). The class is divided into two parts. In the first part of the you will learn about Hypnosis, what it is and how it works. Furthermore we will discuss the most common misconceptions and fears the public has about hypnosis. You will learn how Hypnosis can help you change your eating habits for good and help you move closer to achieving your goal weight.
The second part of this class is an actual hypnotic induction and session. You will also receive a free recording to help you on a daily basis to stay on track.
This training will give you the skills to master the art of how to influence an audience easily and effortlessly, whether your audience is one or thousands. Within this training you will breakthrough your fear of public speaking through shifting your limiting beliefs, releasing past trauma around public speaking and creating a passion to deliver your message with integrity and power. Participants walk away from this training feeling confident and knowing how to address the different learning styles of an audience, captivating the attention of every member. Read more…
January 10, 2012 in Uncategorized
“Every day in every way I receive abundance, health, wealth, love, joy and happiness.”
“I am slim, trim, firm at fight at my ideal of …pounds”.
“The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered, ‘Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived,’”
One of the exercise I have most of my clients undergo is to keep a gratitude journal. Each day they are instructed to write down all the things they are grateful for in their lives. Once they can’t think of anything, I instruct them to write down the the things they are grateful for, but don’t have yet. I have them write those down in the positive and in the present tense, as if they had then already. Our sub-conscious mind only knows and lives in the present, and does move into the direction of our most dominant thoughts. I think we have all been hearing about the law of attraction lately, haven’t we.
Today I came across this great article by Ocean Robbins talking about the Neuroscience of Gratitude. He also talks about studies done on gratitude. I think it is really interesting. To read the article CLICK HERE.
Neuro Linguistic Programming – What is NLP?
The core of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), is encompassed in the NLP definition:
A study of excellence and a model of how individuals structure their experience.
Neuro Linguistic Programming was originated by John Grinder and Richard Bandler in the mid 1970’s. They modelled therapists and communication experts of the time like Dr Milton Erickson (renowned Hypnotherapist), Virginia Satir (renowned Family Therapist) and Fritz Perls (Founder of Gestalt Therapy). Their goal was to discover ‘excellence’ in their techniques; finding the differences that made the difference for the client. The outcome of these early studies were a series of tools and processes that enables quick and lasting resourceful change in clients.
NLP focuses upon the detail of how we communicate (externally and internally), how we process, store and recall this communication, and how we can change and empower this communication to achieve the results and goals we want.
The Presuppositions of NLP form a foundation and common understanding between the Coach and the Client to create the environment, expectation, and intention to achieve the desired outcomes. Read the rest of this entry →